This post contains details from Mondays episode ofThe Bachelorette: Men Tell All.
The time has finally come for Charity to reunite with her exes.
Thats right,The Bachelorette: Men Tell Allis already upon us.
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Below, Charity spoke with Deadline about some of the nights biggest, most dramatic moments.
But first, lets talk about what those were.
Though, he doesnt say what difference it would have made to hear firsthand that they didnt like him.
He had been trying to have an honest moment with her, but it came out all wrong.
She doesnt think he ever saw himself actually getting down on one knee.
Well let Charity clue you in on what pieces of wisdom resonated with her.
Read below for Deadlines conversation with Charity following theMen Tell All.
DEADLINE: How do you feel about your conversation with Xavier at the MTA?
Did that help you close that chapter?
Or, why did you tell me, I love you as we were leaving?
You didnt say it all day.
But if anything, I think the conversation was more helpful for him.
Theres nothing else to talk about.
Obviously a little heavier seeing him atMen Tell All,but overall it was good.
DEADLINE: You had said so many times throughout this process how triggering infidelity is for you.
How did you feel in that moment when he told you hed previously been unfaithful?
But that never once came up.
It all just heavily came in Fiji.
So yeah, I was pissed.
It made no sense to me.
It was very selfish, in my opinion.
LAWSON:I was way too generous.
Even in that conversation.
I was pissed, but I was still being so graceful with him.
But it got to the point where I just continued to ask him questions.
Thats who I am as a person.
Im just a problem solver, and I like to make sense of situations…
But in that moment, I was like, no.
First of all, we dont have time to do this.
Secondly, every time I keep asking you a question, it just continues to get worse and worse.
So I was like, Youre just digging a bigger hole for yourself.
Thats when I was like, Enough is enough.
This is not going to be someone I just continue to give another chance.
We see myself do it time and time again this season.
How did you develop the confidence to just blatantly tell them how its going to be?
LAWSON:Anyone knows me in my real life [knows] Im very sassy at times… For me, confidence is not something that I struggle with.
And making sure that these men are on the same page.
If not, its like get in line or go home.
We dont know what happens yet, but prior to that theres only Dotun and Joey left.
What qualities did you see in them that made you want to continue this process with them?
LAWSON:A common thing that they both share is just their intentionality.
[They were] just being confident, secure men.
Ever since me and Dotun met, all of our conversations are just so stimulating.
We just always are wanting to explorethe depths of each other.
So just having that emotional maturity that I see in Dotun and Joey.
DEADLINE: How surprised were you actually to see Aaron show up in Fiji?
LAWSON:I was like, Whats going on?
I was completely caught off guard.
I did not expect that at all.
In that moment, I was like, I dont know what to do.
Do I talk to him?
Why is he here?
I didnt know if something had happened.
He was just pretty adamant about not getting the closure he needed.
DEADLINE: You also had another chance to speak with Brayden during the MTA.
Was there anything really left to say there?
At no point did I question if Brayden was being honest with me.
I knew he was.
It was two different things.
His tone was completely different with me, [and] the wordings that he used.
I explained this to him that I felt like at times, it was extremely manipulative.
So thats why you see him lash out when things dont go his way.
When hes not the one picked on the date, its a problem.
Its Braydens world, and were just living in it.
But so sorry, welcome to my season ofThe Bachelorette.
I think he figured that out.
Weve seen enough about Brayden.
We talked enough about him.
DEADLINE: Every season there is plenty that we dont get to see.
LAWSON:It all boils down to how much of the conversations we see with other contestants.
Theyre all great guys.
DEADLINE: You also received some advice from former Bachelorettes.
What piece of advice resonated the most with you?
LAWSON:I have no choice but to stan and listen to the OG, Trista.
She has been married to her final one for 20 years.
So like, yes, maam.
What advice would you give to me?
She essentially just said to keep each other first and prioritize one another.
That is something that Im going to take with me.
Im excited and hopeful and I think I have a good head on my shoulders.
Thats a wrap for now…Its almost time for a (possible) engagement!
